Decisions

First things first...What’s a decision? The definition of decision is something that somebody chooses or makes up his or her mind about; firmness of choosing. A decision is not a guess or just an estimate. It’s something you should spend time thinking about and comprehend the things you do before you actually do them. Sometimes we slip up. Sometimes we fall. We don’t make smart decisions at times. We might not THINK it through. We don’t really take the time to contemplate what we do sometimes. We don’t fully think about “What will happen if I actually do this?” and “Who will be affected if I make this decision?”. We have to be more aware about what we do and how much we REALLY think about them. 

Bad decisions have bad repercussions and consequences. It all comes down to that one bad decision. The harder the conflict, the greater the triumph will be. The results of our decisions vary. They can last for an hour or maybe a lifetime. It’s how you deal with it that matters. You can saturate yourself in self-pity or learn how to fly above it and move on. Moving on is the hard part. It’s dealing with it that hurts. It’s accepting it that makes it difficult. This being said, how are you going to let your decision affect you? Will you learn from them and stay optimistic about the results of your decisions or will you have a negative outlook and sulk? 

One thing I have noticed is the way you act also affects others around you. For the longest, I thought as long I did not say anything or do anything no one will notice. I was terribly wrong. Constantly feeling sorry for yourself, pouting, being locked in your room, or just not saying anything, all affected others around me. Another major question is “How do you move on and cope with your decisions?” Everyone loves to say just move on or get over it. This is easier said than done. Some things you cannot just magically move on from and remove the hurt from your consequences.  For starters, always have the right people around you. I have learned the hard way not everyone is for you or wants to see you do better. Remove all the negative people from your life. They will bring you to the ultimate low if you allow them to. Keep yourself busy in order to keep your mind away from it. One thing I still struggle with mostly was forgiveness. Forgiving the people who influenced my decision but most of all myself. I really disappointed myself the most out of anyone. 

Decisions don’t only affect you, but you also have an effect on others as well. You have to consider the possible people you will disappoint when you make any decision. I could not forgive myself at all. I was stuck in a state of hurt and disappointment. I couldn’t accept it. I didn’t want to come to reality It’s hard to face reality. But it comes a time where you have to let go of all the animosity, disappointments, malice, resentment, hostility, and just hurt period. In order to move on, you have to forgive yourself and/or the people who influenced the decision. Lastly, learn from it. Life is a learning experience. No one likes consequences but they are here for the best. I can honestly say without the consequences I’ve been going through in my life right now, I would be in a really bad place right now. I would have never known what I know now. I thank God that I’m getting lesson to save myself a lifetime worth of disappointment. It took me a very long time to accept it, but now that I’ve accepted it and just moved on from it I’m in a way better place then I was back then. Sometimes God gives us consequences to give us warning signals before an ultimate fall comes.

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Contributed by:
Kaylah K.

We have a new contributor Kaylah K. a 14 year old freshman and the niece of Founder, Yolanda Douthit contributing to The Daily Dose. Kaylah was tasked with writing an article on what she learned this summer. She is an exceptional writer and she has written a very thought provoking article of how  our "Decisions" determine our past, present and future. Kaylah is a phenomenal young woman that is growing and maturing in Christ and she has learned the importance of making wise 'Decisions'. 

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Enter into Pray

Dear Lord, 

We come before you asking You to create in us a clean heart, to renew a right spirit within us. We are so grateful that You didn’t cast us away from Your presence and You didn’t take Your Holy Spirit away from us when we failed You as Your mercy endures forever. You are able to make old things passed away and all things new, so today I ask that you remove our old mindsets, and we declare today that we are spiritually minded according to and have the mind of Christ. (Romans 8:6, 1 Corinthians 2:16) Heavenly Father, I ask that You give us knowledge of Your will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding and the strength and might of You. We want you to be involved in what you want us to be involved in, and not to be involved in the things You don’t want us to be involved in according to Colossians 1:9. Your Word says if any man lacks wisdom, let him ask of You, and he will receive wisdom according to James 1:5. I ask for wisdom in every decision we have to make. Help us to remember that our mind is a judge according to 1 Corinthians 11:31 and we are always listening to fear or faith. Heavenly Father, I ask that each of us will hear Your Voice so that we will not be deceived in any area that we will follow You and set a clear path for ourselves and our  families to follow. Let our decisions, actions and mouths speak wisdom and the meditation of our hearts be of understanding according to Psalms 19:3. Heavenly Father, implant in our hearts: We are doers of the Word according to James 1:22 in your Son Jesus Name, Amen!